Is my Relationship Hurting Me?
It is important to know that even in a dating relationship abuse can take place. Abuse can take many forms, including emotional abuse, physical abuse, and sexual and financial abuse. It can occur in casual dating or long-term relationships. To keep safe it is important to identify different forms of abuse and warning signs.
Physical Abuse is…
- Hitting or Slapping
- Pushing or Grabbing
- Choking or Kicking
- Pulling your hair
- Destroying belongings
- Throwing objects
- Threatening to use weapons
Emotional Abuse is…
- Name calling or cursing at you
- Making fun of your ideas, religion, goals, values
- Withholding affection as punishment
- Threatening to hurt themselves or you if you ever leave them
- Criticizing the way you look, dress, etc.
- Confusing you with lies and contradictions, constantly accusing you of cheating
- Isolation, cutting off all your relationships so that you have no one to turn to
- Keeping track of everything you do
- Trying to control what you wear, who you see, where you go
Sexual Abuse is…
- Rape or forced sex
- Unwanted sexual practices
- Inappropriate Language
- Unwillingness to use protection
Financial Abuse is…
- Preventing you from working or going to school
- Harassing you at work/school
- Controlling your money or refusing to work or let you work
- Buying you gifts and expecting something in return
Teenage girls suffer more often from relationship abuse, emotionally and physically. They are much more likely than teenage boys to have serious injuries. Teenage boys are, however, victims of abuse, though it is more often psychological than physical.
If you’re in a dating relationship that in any way feels uncomfortable or even frightening, trust your feelings and get out of it. It could become, or may already be, abusive.
Jealousy is NOT Love. T
his is not an expression of love but a sign of fear and insecurity. Jealousy is no reason to I tell someone what to do or to whom they can talk. Some guys/girls may choose jealousy as an excuse to vent anger, to threaten or act violently towards you. These actions are not healthy—they’re just a way to control you!
You have every right to say NO.
No boyfriend or girlfriend has the right to tell you what you can or should do, what you can or should wear or what kind of friends you should have.
You are not alone-1/3 of all high school and college students will have been in an abusive relationship by the time they graduate.
Phase 1: Tension Building: Increase in tension, anger, blaming, arguing constantly. The victim is scared to do or say anything.
Phase 2: Explosion or battering: Physical violence takes place, hitting, slapping, sexual abuse, use of weapon and verbal threats of abuse
Phase 3: Denial: Abuser minimizes the abuse or pretends nothing happened. You tell yourself that the abuse isn’t that bad. You make excuses for your partner’s behavior to your friends and family.
Phase 4: Honeymoon Phase: At this stage, the abusive partner tries to ensure that their partner doesn’t leave. They are more likely to be romantic, buy gifts, and act kind and giving.
Abuse continues. It is up to YOU to break the cycle.
IF YOU ARE IN AN ABUSIVE RELATIONSHIP, CALL THE FSN CONFIDENTIAL CRISIS LINE AT 284-499-0999
IF YOU ARE IN IMMEDIATE DANGER, CALL THE ROAD TOWN POLICE AT 494-3822
If you’ve been hurt, call 911